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A Wild Ride

9/19/2015

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Welcome back to Taylor Talks!

People always ask for advice when they are at the beginning of their foster care journey. They want to know what to expect from people who have been through it already. I saw a post on one of the Facebook pages that I'm on today that asked for some advice as the woman was going through the final stage of becoming a licensed foster parent.
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It's always great to hear stories from others who have gone through similar experiences to what you're about to go through, but as with having children through childbirth, foster care differs greatly from one case to the next and everyone's experiences are quite different. The biggest thing I can say is that foster care will be a wild ride.

If you're prepared to take in a child, you need to be prepared for pretty much anything. Have you ever watched the reality show "Big Brother" before? That's one of my favorite shows, and their motto is "expect the unexpected." That's exactly the kind of mindset you need to be in when becoming a foster family.

The foster children who enter your life may have faced struggles in the past that left them angry, or depressed, or lashing out in some way. Kids may want you to love them and hug them, to just let them know that you're there for them. Or maybe kids will want you to stay at a distance because they don't quite trust adults.

Some kids will want to start calling you 'Mom' or 'Dad' right away, but others may remain on a first name basis with you throughout their entire stay in foster care. One child may be afraid to speak up when they need something, and will need you to be their voice for a while, but another child may not be afraid to speak their mind and say exactly what they need. It all depends on the child and the situation that you're dealing with.

You're going to have caseworkers with whom you love working, and you might have the occasional caseworker who annoys you to no end. Sometimes you won't have any problems with working out a visitation schedule, and other times it will be like pulling teeth to get someone to listen to what you have to say. You can't be afraid to speak up for the needs of you and your family, but you have to remember to be respectful to all parties involved.

Becoming a foster parent is a huge decision and one that will completely change your life. Whether or not you have biological children when embarking on this journey, you need to be prepared for just about anything life can throw at you; if you have biological children, you need to prepare them as well. There will be joy and laughter, and there will also be heartbreak and tears. It's all part of the amazing adventure that foster care will take you on, and it will all be completely worth it in the end.

Thank you so much for your continued support! I look forward to sharing more stories about my experience with foster care, and hopefully hearing from readers who have questions or similar stories to share. I'm always willing to answer questions and hear about other experiences! Please don't forget to like and share my Facebook author page as well!

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Thanks!
Taylor

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Rebecca Clemens
9/23/2015 11:57:23 am

Taylor, I am a current foster parent who grew up with foster siblings from the time I was four until I was 17. I had 22 foster siblings and have only been able to keep in touch with one. I can empathize with a lot of what you say and am glad you are reaching out to let others know they are not alone. We need to have support groups for bio kids they way foster parents have support groups. Keep up the caring!

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Taylor Faith Krigsman link
9/23/2015 03:14:26 pm

Hi Rebecca, thanks for your comment! It's so funny that you mention a support group, because that's basically what I was looking for when I first started this blog. I couldn't find any groups where I could talk to other bio kids and share experiences, so I started writing a daily blog instead, in hopes that someday other bio kids would be able to read it. I've actually been thinking about putting some kind of chat or forum on my site to allow bio kids to connect (as long as they don't put out personal information about foster children) so maybe I'll look into that.... I hope you'll be able to talk to some other bio kids if I get that set up, and that's wonderful that you're now a foster parent yourself! I bet you have a lot of experiences to discuss as well!

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    My family started doing foster care when I was three years old. We took in nineteen children over the course of eighteen years, with our last placement leaving in December 2014. I'm the only biological child in my family, though my parents adopted five of my siblings.

    I love to share my perspective on the foster care system and share how my unique upbringing shaped my life.

    I'm also a Cast Member at Walt Disney World and lover of all things Disney! My career allows me the opportunity to find a little bit of Magic in life every day.


    I enjoy sharing my journey as a writer as well. Find my children's books on Amazon and keep following my blog for updates on future books that I'll be releasing!

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