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Today, I was thinking about the idea of wanting to know where you come from. It was a special day in our family; the birthday of a man who I called my grandfather, even though we weren't technically related, and my grandma's birthday as well.
Both of these incredible people are no longer with us to celebrate birthdays. In fact, my grandmother passed away before I was born, even before my parents got married, so my mom, siblings, and I never had the chance to meet her. Sure, my dad has told me tons of stories about the incredible person that she was, but I wasn't lucky enough to know her. So that got me thinking about knowing your family and your ancestors and where you come from. I may not have known my grandmother, but I know where I come from through stories and my dad. I don't have any grandparents, but I know my family's history.
You often hear that children who were adopted grow up to wonder where they come from. Sometimes adopted children grow up and go on a quest to find their birth parents, to learn more about their biological history. It's only natural to be curious about where you come from, and while not all adopted children grow up and want to find their birth parents, sometimes it does happen.
In adoption through foster care, it seems to me that the situation is completely different. Even if a child is extremely young when placed into the foster care system, they will grow up to understand that they were taken from their biological parents for good reason. In adoption, a child might wonder why their biological parents gave them up. In adoption through foster care, a child will find out that their biological parents could not care for them for any number of reasons, such as drug use, or the fact that they abused their children. I don't think that children adopted through foster care would grow up and feel the need to look for their biological parents. In addition to the feelings associated with adoption, there are the facts to take into account. Adoptions through foster care are closed adoptions. You can't get into those records later on because they are sealed.
Adoption through foster care is very different than straight adoption. The rules are different, the feelings are different, and the people involved are different. Someone giving their baby up for adoption might be looking out for the best interest of their child. A child who is first put into foster care is being looked out for by C.P.S. and not by their biological parents. It's a completely different scenario. But in both cases, the children are being given new families, new lives, and new hope for the future. Adoption is a really beautiful thing.
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My family has been doing foster care since I was three years old. I'm the only biological child in my family, though I now have five permanent siblings. Having nineteen siblings over the course of my lifetime has been an incredible experience, and I'm hoping that by sharing some of the ups and downs of being the only bio kid in a foster family, other foster families or people looking into doing foster care will be able to learn a bit of what life can be like. I also like to share what life is like on my journey to becoming a published author, as well as where my schooling and career choice are taking me.