Life as a Writer, Disney World Cast Member, and
Big Sister through Foster Care & Adoption
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Do you ever get really frustrated about something and just wonder why it's happening? Well there can definitely be some frustration in foster care, though you might be surprised to realize that it has nothing to do with the kids.
When you have a foster child in your care, you have to deal with DSS, the bio family, rules, and regulations. Sometimes you will wonder why a bio parent gets visitation if they did something wrong. It's all part of the system. You may not like it, but that bio parent still has a right to see their child until parental rights are terminated.
Sometimes you'll wonder why a grandparent or relative can go to the visits. This part is usually more frustrating than the parent visits. I mean, if the extended family wanted to see this kid so much, why didn't they take them before they were put into the system? But unfortunately, it doesn't really matter what you think as a member of the foster family, because those family members are still allowed to be part of the visits if the judge says so.
It's easy to become attached to a foster child and overprotective of them. You want them to be part of your family, even if you know it's just a temporary placement. And that means that you're going to get frustrated when the child has to go to visits each week and see people who weren't (or couldn't) take care of them before. But the good news is that all of that frustration that you're feeling means that you're a good parent. It doesn't matter that the word "foster" is in front of "mom" or "dad" because you're the person who is there for that child when they need someone's comfort. You're there for that child when they need breakfast, or have to get ready for school. You're looking out for the best interest of that child, so frustration comes along with that. Being frustrated at times means that you're doing your job well.
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My family has been doing foster care since I was three years old. I'm the only biological child in my family, though I now have five permanent siblings. Having nineteen siblings over the course of my lifetime has been an incredible experience, and I'm hoping that by sharing some of the ups and downs of being the only bio kid in a foster family, other foster families or people looking into doing foster care will be able to learn a bit of what life can be like. I also like to share what life is like on my journey to becoming a published author, as well as where my schooling and career choice are taking me.