Life as a Writer, Disney World Cast Member, and
Big Sister through Foster Care & Adoption
Welcome back to Taylor Talks!
It's Foster Parent Friday, so tonight I'm featuring an interview with a foster mom named Ingrid, from New South Wales, Australia! Don't forget to go back and read the interviews with my mom and a foster mom named Nicki too, if you haven't seen those yet!
How long have you been a foster parent?
Do you do respite, short-term, or long-term care?
"Currently doing long term but have done respite, emergency, and short term."
How many children have you taken in over that period of time?
"I think it's 32."
Do you limit your care to a certain age group? If so, what ages do you take in?
"Originally we limited care to teenagers because we were both working full time and didn't have the capacity to take on little ones. However, that has changed over the years and now we just assess whether we can fit a child into the family based on who is living with us and whether we have a spare room!
Have you ever adopted any children? If so, how many?
"No adoptions. Teenagers don't generally want to be adopted lol."
Did you have any biological children when you started foster care? If so, how many? How old were they at the time?
"Yes, 4 children: 11, 13, 15, and 17."
What were your biggest concerns as you started your foster care journey?
"Our greatest concern was whether a child would fit into our family, especially in terms of our own 4 children and their reactions to a new addition. We had some ups and downs but we got through them."
What is the biggest lesson you have learned from being a foster parent?
"That you can't always help everyone that you care for."
Is there anything you would change about your experience as a foster parent?
"I wouldn't change anything. Our experiences are what make us the people we are today."
Do you have any words of wisdom for future or new foster parents?
"No matter what you think of birth families, they are the child's family and the child loves them regardless (I've only had one child in 18 years who did not want contact with their mother). Keep your opinions to yourself and let the things they say, either directly or via the child, go over your head. It generally isn't about you - it's about their own shortcomings."
Thanks so much to Ingrid for sharing her experiences! It's really interesting to read about how people experience foster care in other parts of the world. Isn't social media amazing? It's incredible that I can have a conversation with someone on the other side of the world about her experience as a foster parent, and I never even need to leave my couch!
Are you a foster parent who is interested in doing an interview for Foster Parent Fridays? Send me a message through my Contact page and I'll give you the details! I'm looking forward to sharing more interviews in the future to showcase the perspectives of other foster parents!
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My family has been doing foster care since I was three years old. I'm the only biological child in my family, though I now have five permanent siblings. Having nineteen siblings over the course of my lifetime has been an incredible experience, and I'm hoping that by sharing some of the ups and downs of being the only bio kid in a foster family, other foster families or people looking into doing foster care will be able to learn a bit of what life can be like. I also like to share what life is like on my journey to becoming a published author, as well as where my schooling and career choice are taking me.