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All children feel differently about their situations when they are in foster care or are adopted. Some kids are proud to be adopted; some kids don't want anyone to know that they were put into the foster system. It all depends on the child and his or her experience.
In our family, we've always been very open and honest about foster care and my siblings' adoptions. You couldn't tell from this blog, huh? Well even though we are always talking about how our family came to be, each of my siblings (those who are old enough to understand anyway) feel differently about their lives and express themselves differently.
My brother never liked to talk about the fact that he was adopted. I think he has opened up more in the past few years though. I don't know what he's up to now, or how many people he talks about his life with, but he used to be very private about his situation.
My sister never even talks about her adoption. Sometimes if we're discussing old memories, she'll ask a question or try to remember a piece of her childhood, but overall she's pretty quiet about her situation.
My little brother has always been very open and curious about his start in life. He comes up with random questions about his biological parents or jokes with us about how crazy he was when he was first placed here. I don't know if he talks to anyone else about being adopted, but at least at home he's very outspoken about his situation.
You'll find these various feelings and opinions all over with kids who are in the foster system or who have been adopted. Sometimes you'll have no idea that a friend of yours was adopted as a baby, or that the new neighbors are fostering their youngest child. On the other hand, some people are very open about their adoption because they're so thankful for having been given that life. Some former foster kids grow up to foster other children, or become social workers or advocates. Everyone reflects on their background in their own way.
If you're curious about someone's experience, don't poke and prod into their life. Test the waters and see how they feel about discussing the subject, but don't push them and invade their private life. Sometimes it's a sensitive subject, and that's alright.
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My family has been doing foster care since I was three years old. I'm the only biological child in my family, though I now have five permanent siblings. Having nineteen siblings over the course of my lifetime has been an incredible experience, and I'm hoping that by sharing some of the ups and downs of being the only bio kid in a foster family, other foster families or people looking into doing foster care will be able to learn a bit of what life can be like. I also like to share what life is like on my journey to becoming a published author, as well as where my schooling and career choice are taking me.