Welcome back to Taylor Talks!
Having a new foster child arrive at your house is always an incredible experience, but there's more to a new placement than the initial commotion when they arrive.
There's always a period of time after a new child comes to live with us during which they get to know us and we get to know them. When I was little, it was just getting my new brother or sister to open up and play with me. As I got older, I felt more like I needed to help the new kid actually adjust to our house and a new life, but I also felt like it was more difficult for me to get to know the kids.
Maybe it was because I had more to deal with than just what toy I wanted to share, or maybe I've just changed as I've gotten older... I'm not sure what exactly has happened, but I just know that I've almost felt a little but awkward when our most recent placements have arrived. I hate feeling like that, because I know I never felt like that when I was younger.
No matter how I feel when a new child arrives at our home, I try not to let them know. Super excited, anxious, nervous... It doesn't matter how I'm feeling when they come. It only matters how the child is feeling, and how comfortable they can become in their new environment.
You might feel a variety of emotions with each placement that you take in. As far as I can tell, it's perfectly normal to feel all kinds of feelings, even with just a single placement. Just keep in mind that no matter what you're feeling, the child's feelings come first.
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My family has been doing foster care since I was three years old. I'm the only biological child in my family, though I now have five permanent siblings. Having nineteen siblings over the course of my lifetime has been an incredible experience, and I'm hoping that by sharing some of the ups and downs of being the only bio kid in a foster family, other foster families or people looking into doing foster care will be able to learn a bit of what life can be like. I also like to share what life is like on my journey to becoming a published author, as well as where my schooling and career choice are taking me.