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I'm not sure if I've ever talked about the age rule that we have in our house, so I thought it might be a good topic to cover.
In every foster home, it is possible to tell DSS exactly which children can be placed in the home. For example, you may only have room for a boy in the home, or you may not be able to take in any infants.
In our home, we've had a rule in place since my parents first became certified to take in foster children. No matter how many permanent members of the family there have been, we have never taken in children older than our youngest family member.
So when it was just my parents and me, when we were taking in our first foster children, I was three years old. My parents told DSS that we could only take in kids younger than three. After my brother was part of the family, we wouldn't take in children older than he was. Last year, when our most recent foster sister was placed with us, DSS knew that they couldn't ask us to take in children older than four, because my twin sister were four at the time.
Why do we have this rule in our house? My parents always felt that their children shouldn't lose their place in the family. I was here before all of my siblings; they didn't want to take in an older child who would boss me around like an older sibling and make me feel bad. Instead, I've always gotten to remain the oldest and boss everyone else around!
In all seriousness though, this rule actually makes a lot of sense to me. I've always been able to become a big sister again with each new placement we have taken in. Each of my siblings have been able to have that experience of becoming a big brother or sister, and in turn have each had the opportunity to start bossing around younger kids. It's the circle of life in the sibling world!
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My family has been doing foster care since I was three years old. I'm the only biological child in my family, though I now have five permanent siblings. Having nineteen siblings over the course of my lifetime has been an incredible experience, and I'm hoping that by sharing some of the ups and downs of being the only bio kid in a foster family, other foster families or people looking into doing foster care will be able to learn a bit of what life can be like. I also like to share what life is like on my journey to becoming a published author, as well as where my schooling and career choice are taking me.