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Tonight, I thought I would talk a little about the first adoption I ever experienced. In the future, I’ll definitely discuss it more, but I just wanted to reminisce about the part where we sat with the judge that day. It was the second day of my third grade year, and I missed school that day. My brother was in first grade, and he too missed school. Our dad took the day off from work, which was extremely rare. We knew it was a big deal.
My mom laid out a nice suit for my dad. My brother and I had gotten fancy new outfits as well, and my brother looked very handsome in his tiny suit. The four of us went to the courthouse and tons of family and friends joined us there. When we went into the courtroom, my mom and dad took my brother to sit down in front. The judge didn’t sit at her bench; instead, she sat at the end of the table, and she invited me to come down to sit with them as well. I was thrilled to be so closely included.
My brother and I were too young to understand all of the legal stuff that was happening. My parents had to sign papers and the judge asked them a lot of questions. She asked my brother a lot too. I remember that she talked to me as well. The judge made me and my brother promise something that day, something that was written into the court records of the adoption. Our promises were:
Me: “I promise to be a bossy big sister.”
My brother: “I promise to be an annoying little brother.”
We have held up our promises to the judge to this day. We have even seen the judge since that adoption and told her that we have always held up our promises. To my seven-year-old self, and to my six-year-old brother, these promises were the most important things in the world. Though we have grown and changed since then, those promises remind me that we will always be there for each other, and that we promised to be family for the rest of our lives. Most people don’t get a choice as to who their brothers or sisters are; we were lucky enough to choose to stay together forever.
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My family has been doing foster care since I was three years old. I'm the only biological child in my family, though I now have five permanent siblings. Having nineteen siblings over the course of my lifetime has been an incredible experience, and I'm hoping that by sharing some of the ups and downs of being the only bio kid in a foster family, other foster families or people looking into doing foster care will be able to learn a bit of what life can be like. I also like to share what life is like on my journey to becoming a published author, as well as where my schooling and career choice are taking me.