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This morning, I saw something on one of the foster care pages I'm part of on Facebook that gave me pause. It touched on a subject that was close to my heart, and I wanted to speak about it here.
Someone on this page posed a question asking how foster parents respond when others assume that their foster children are "their kids." Basically, do foster parents correct others and say that those are their "foster children," or do they just leave it at "they're my kids" instead? This foster parent asked if other foster parents consider the foster children to be their own.
I was quite surprised to see that there were a variety of responses. Some parents will correct people who don't use the term "foster," while others say that it doesn't matter where the children came from or how long they've been part of the family, because from the moment they walk through the door they belong.
If anyone needs to guess as to the way my parents and I feel about this subject, you're either reading my blog for the very first time tonight, or I haven't done a good job of explaining my life! Clearly all of the foster children who have entered our home have been my siblings, the children of my parents, part of our family, for as long as they were with us and even after that. I still consider each of the children who left our home to be my siblings, no matter how long they were a part of my life.
I think that if you take in foster children and continually make a point of labeling them as such, then you're not doing any good for them. You are their family while they can't be with their biological family, so you need to love those kids and treat them as your own flesh and blood. If you label them the "foster kids" and single them out every chance you get, then they're always going to feel self-conscious and out of place. You want them to understand what love is and how wonderful it can feel to be part of a family setting, so that they'll have a taste of what they should be striving for as they get older, no matter how their lives turn out after leaving your care.
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My family has been doing foster care since I was three years old. I'm the only biological child in my family, though I now have five permanent siblings. Having nineteen siblings over the course of my lifetime has been an incredible experience, and I'm hoping that by sharing some of the ups and downs of being the only bio kid in a foster family, other foster families or people looking into doing foster care will be able to learn a bit of what life can be like. I also like to share what life is like on my journey to becoming a published author, as well as where my schooling and career choice are taking me.