One of the most common questions I’m asked when people find out about my lifestyle is if I still talk to all of my former foster siblings. Sadly, the answer is no.
After children leave our home, we don’t see them anymore. We don’t talk to them or write letters, we don’t get Christmas cards or exchange birthday wishes. These kids merely become a memory for us, and we don’t even know if they remember their time with us after a while. The younger the children are when they stay with us, the greater the odds are that they will forget about living here after they’ve been gone for a while.
I remember that one time, my former sister and I had been emailing back and forth every day. Then one day, she wrote to me and said that she wouldn’t be online for a week, but that she’d write to me again when she came back online. She had been grounded for something, so she didn’t want me to think that she had dropped of the face of the earth. I remember that when I told my parents about that, they were thrilled. I was so confused; why were we being so happy that she was in trouble? But they said that if she was grounded, that meant that her dad was involved in her life, and was paying attention to what she was doing. If she was in trouble, that meant that her dad was doing exactly what a parent should be doing. So I guess that was a pretty good thing after all.
Aside from that one sister, I’ve never reconnected with anyone else. I tried looking everyone up a few years back, but I think that a lot of them were too young to have any kind of social media account yet. Maybe I’ll have to look into that again, and see if I can find anyone. It would be nice to see how everyone has grown up.
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