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One of the most common questions I’m asked when people find out about my lifestyle is if I still talk to all of my former foster siblings. Sadly, the answer is no.
After children leave our home, we don’t see them anymore. We don’t talk to them or write letters, we don’t get Christmas cards or exchange birthday wishes. These kids merely become a memory for us, and we don’t even know if they remember their time with us after a while. The younger the children are when they stay with us, the greater the odds are that they will forget about living here after they’ve been gone for a while.
That being said, I have been able to reconnect with one of the fourteen siblings that have left my house over the years. Remember Myspace? Yeah, I’m sure that everyone just remembered the existence of that site now… Come on, you know that you (or your children) had a Myspace page at some point. Back on those old pages, there are some great old photos that everyone forgot about! I recently found some forgotten gems. But I digress… So back when Myspace was a big thing, I was in middle school, and I somehow was able to find my very first foster sister through the website. It was incredible. She remembered living with us, but her younger brother (who was a newborn when they came to us) didn’t remember anything. It was so nice to be able to talk to her, and find out how their lives had turned out.
I remember that one time, my former sister and I had been emailing back and forth every day. Then one day, she wrote to me and said that she wouldn’t be online for a week, but that she’d write to me again when she came back online. She had been grounded for something, so she didn’t want me to think that she had dropped of the face of the earth. I remember that when I told my parents about that, they were thrilled. I was so confused; why were we being so happy that she was in trouble? But they said that if she was grounded, that meant that her dad was involved in her life, and was paying attention to what she was doing. If she was in trouble, that meant that her dad was doing exactly what a parent should be doing. So I guess that was a pretty good thing after all.
Aside from that one sister, I’ve never reconnected with anyone else. I tried looking everyone up a few years back, but I think that a lot of them were too young to have any kind of social media account yet. Maybe I’ll have to look into that again, and see if I can find anyone. It would be nice to see how everyone has grown up.
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My family has been doing foster care since I was three years old. I'm the only biological child in my family, though I now have five permanent siblings. Having nineteen siblings over the course of my lifetime has been an incredible experience, and I'm hoping that by sharing some of the ups and downs of being the only bio kid in a foster family, other foster families or people looking into doing foster care will be able to learn a bit of what life can be like. I also like to share what life is like on my journey to becoming a published author, as well as where my schooling and career choice are taking me.