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The "Real" Children

2/15/2015

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Welcome back to Taylor Talks!

I'm sitting here making some progress on tons and tons of work for becoming a certified teacher, and I'm at the point where my mind has started to wander. I've been sitting in the same spot for hours and need to do anything other than this homework. I started thinking about a conversation that I've had quite a few times with people in the past, and I thought I would share it here today.
When people hear about the fact that my family does foster care, or that my parents have adopted children, I usually get the same kinds of questions. Are you adopted? Are all of your siblings adopted? Are your siblings in foster care or are they all adopted? There's variations on the way people ask, but I basically always get the same questions whenever this conversation occurs.

Now clearly, I don't mind talking about foster care and my family's situation. I obviously love discussing my life with people if I've been writing an entire blog about it. But sometimes the questions or responses that I get from people really bug me, and I just get angry at the world for being so dumb sometimes. Like one question that I have gotten on numerous occasions in the past: Are you your parents' only real child?

I'm sorry, their only REAL child? Are you kidding? No seriously, you have to be kidding, right?

I mean, come on, are my siblings all imaginary friends of mine? What in the world does that mean, am I the only real child?

I get it, okay, people have questions. When you hear that a family has adopted a bunch of children, it would make sense to me that you wonder if all of the children are adopted or not. Heck, if I met another foster family, I would definitely be curious how many kids were born into the family versus fostered or adopted. But that's the difference right there... I would want to know who was born versus adopted into the family, not who is real or who is fake. Seriously, I'm the only biological child, not the only real child. Sometimes I wonder if people forget to think about their questions before spurting them out.

I'm always happy to share information about my family, and about foster care or adoption. I think it's great if other foster or adoptive families share their experiences as well. But I always think that when you're sharing information, you have to be quick to fix misconceptions and give people the factual information, not just let them walk around sounding ridiculous.

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Thanks!
Taylor
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Dawn
11/12/2015 05:53:48 pm

How do you answer them?

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Taylor Faith Krigsman link
11/12/2015 10:51:04 pm

How do I answer people when they ask if I'm the only "real" child? Well luckily for me, I'm a pretty sarcastic person. Depending on the situation and the person with whom I'm speaking, the answer may vary, but I'm usually pretty sarcastic. I might just leave it at, "No, I'm not their only 'real' child," or I might tell them how ridiculous it sounds. It really depends on the situation and how I'm feeling in the moment.

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    My family started doing foster care when I was three years old. We took in nineteen children over the course of eighteen years, with our last placement leaving in December 2014. I'm the only biological child in my family, though my parents adopted five of my siblings.

    I love to share my perspective on the foster care system and share how my unique upbringing shaped my life.

    I'm also a Cast Member at Walt Disney World and lover of all things Disney! My career allows me the opportunity to find a little bit of Magic in life every day.


    I enjoy sharing my journey as a writer as well. Find my children's books on Amazon and keep following my blog for updates on future books that I'll be releasing!

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