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Last week, I talked a little about the visits that all foster children go on, and mentioned how the bi-weekly or weekly visits can become weekend visits right before a child is given back to their biological parents at the end of their time in foster care. Usually, when these weekend visits start to happen, it does mean that the child will be going home shortly after that, and these visits are just a step closer to the child and parents being reunited for good. However, sometimes the weekend visits prove that the parents are not capable of having their children back, and the process turns around.
As I mentioned last week, the bi-weekly or weekly visits at the DSS offices are always supervised. When they change to weekend visits, they are no longer supervised, because I guess you could call it a bit of a test for the parents, to see how well they do on their own with the kids. This, unfortunately, sometimes proves to the judge that the parents are not fit to have their children back.
To give an example, one of my sisters was actually very close to going home to her biological mother. When they went to weekend visits, things ended up changing very quickly. It turned out that the biological mother could not take care of my sister properly, and my sister even came back to us one Monday with her ears pierced. The mother had done it herself, and had not even sanitized the tools she used properly. My sister got infected and to this day, though this happened over ten years ago, her ears never healed properly and she cannot wear earrings. Unfortunately for the biological mother, the weekend visits proved to the court that she was not fit to take her children back, but luckily for my family, we ended up being able to adopt my sister. It’s crazy how things turn out.
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My family has been doing foster care since I was three years old. I'm the only biological child in my family, though I now have five permanent siblings. Having nineteen siblings over the course of my lifetime has been an incredible experience, and I'm hoping that by sharing some of the ups and downs of being the only bio kid in a foster family, other foster families or people looking into doing foster care will be able to learn a bit of what life can be like. I also like to share what life is like on my journey to becoming a published author, as well as where my schooling and career choice are taking me.