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Today, my family went out to the movie theater. We rarely have a day where we all go to a movie like that, so it was a fun experience (even though my dad fell asleep at the end!). We also went with some of the kids’ friends, and I drove home with them. Their grandmother, who had gone with us as well, was asking me about foster care.
She wasn't quite sure about our lives, and asked if my parents had adopted nineteen children. I explained the difference between just fostering versus adopting, and said that my parents had adopted all of the siblings currently living with me, except for the two-year-old who we are currently fostering. Then she asked me where all of the other kids have gone.
Where do they go? It’s a common question, really. More people ask me that than I can count. Well, the truth is that each case is different and not all of the children go home to their parents. But sometimes it’s just easier to tell people that the kids went home after they didn’t live with us anymore. To be more specific though, we’ve had kids who have gone home to both of their biological parents, kids who have only been allowed to return home to one parent after they had divorced the spouse that was doing wrong, and kids who went to live with grandparents because their parents couldn’t care for them any longer.
The kids that my parents have adopted have been the only siblings I’ve had over the years whose parents’ rights were terminated and they were put up for adoption. Everyone else eventually went home after their stay in foster care with us. There really aren’t any other options, because we don’t want kids to bounce around from foster home to foster home. We only had one child who went to another foster home after she lived with us, but I’ll speak about that more on another day. Everyone else went home or stayed here forever.
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My family has been doing foster care since I was three years old. I'm the only biological child in my family, though I now have five permanent siblings. Having nineteen siblings over the course of my lifetime has been an incredible experience, and I'm hoping that by sharing some of the ups and downs of being the only bio kid in a foster family, other foster families or people looking into doing foster care will be able to learn a bit of what life can be like. I also like to share what life is like on my journey to becoming a published author, as well as where my schooling and career choice are taking me.