Life as a Writer, Disney World Cast Member, and
Big Sister through Foster Care & Adoption
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Tonight, I had the opportunity to go visit my friend’s house (the one who I wrote about back in the post, “Welcome to the Club”), and see her little brothers. One of those little brothers, who is just two, was placed with her family last month and is their first foster child. While I was at her house, I got to talk to her and her parents about how much this little boy has grown over the month he’s been with them.
From the time they first took in this little boy to now, the family has seen such an incredible change with him. We talked about it tonight; how much more he’s talking, how easily he plays with the other boys, how much more he understands, etc. As we were talking about how far he has come in just that month, it reminded me a lot about the little girl that we had living with us last year. I realized that there is a sort of pattern to how these children grow while with the foster family, especially when they are so little.
I have noticed that when a very young child is placed with our family, most often they don’t talk a lot, they don’t feel very comfortable with hugging anyone or being too touchy-feely, and they’re pretty quiet. As they spend time with the family, they start to come out of their shells, and they talk a little more (even if they’re too young to use sentences, they babble a lot more), and they start to feel comfortable sitting on your lap or hugging you, and they start to feel comfortable walking around the house because it’s their home too.
Granted, many of the changes in the child are simply because they start to feel more comfortable in the home. However, they also grow a lot because they (more often than not) haven’t had as much attention as they get at our house, and they learn a lot from being around other kids. Seeing my friend’s little foster brother made me see that it’s the same in other houses as well. It’s only been a month, but this little guy is already learning from the family. While he refuses to say ‘yes’ (it is the terrible twos after all), he says ‘please’ and laughs more, he runs around with his new brothers, and he’s a bubbly, happy little boy. It’s really a joy to see how far he has come since he moved in with my friend’s family.
If you’re part of a foster family, what growth do you notice in a new foster child over the first month? How do you make them feel more at home?
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My family has been doing foster care since I was three years old. I'm the only biological child in my family, though I now have five permanent siblings. Having nineteen siblings over the course of my lifetime has been an incredible experience, and I'm hoping that by sharing some of the ups and downs of being the only bio kid in a foster family, other foster families or people looking into doing foster care will be able to learn a bit of what life can be like. I also like to share what life is like on my journey to becoming a published author, as well as where my schooling and career choice are taking me.