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Tonight, I wanted to talk about the direct role that my siblings and I have always had in our foster care journey. I thought that people might be interested to hear about the voting process that we go through before making any important decision.
Since the time when I was an only child, though that was so long ago that it's hard to ever remember having life without siblings, I have always had a say in what happened in our family. My parents asked me what I thought about taking in children before we started doing foster care.
As I mentioned the other day, I had a say in whether or not we continued to do foster care after our first foster children left our home. Well each of my brothers and sisters and I had a say in whether or not we continued to foster after children left our home. We always took a vote to decide if we wanted to take in more children.
We also have taken a vote each time a child was placed for adoption. We would all have a discussion about how we felt and everyone had a say in determining whether or not we would make a child part of our forever family. Of course, all five children who were put up for adoption were adopted by my parents. But the funny part was that for each vote we had, my brother would vote against the family at first. He would always say that he didn't want anymore siblings, or that we shouldn't keep a kid because they were "annoying." Typical boy, right? Thinks everyone else is annoying, but doesn't realize that he's right in there with them! He did promise a judge that he'd be an annoying little brother after all. But every time, he would realize that being annoying is part of being a sibling, and he would realize that he wanted to keep doing foster care or adopt a child as well.
It's been so important for us kids to have a voice in what happens in our family, and though parents will probably always have the last say in matters, I would highly recommend our voting method to other foster families as well.
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My family has been doing foster care since I was three years old. I'm the only biological child in my family, though I now have five permanent siblings. Having nineteen siblings over the course of my lifetime has been an incredible experience, and I'm hoping that by sharing some of the ups and downs of being the only bio kid in a foster family, other foster families or people looking into doing foster care will be able to learn a bit of what life can be like. I also like to share what life is like on my journey to becoming a published author, as well as where my schooling and career choice are taking me.