Speaking Up

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Coming from the background that I come from, in which I've had so many siblings from so many different backgrounds of their own, I know that life can be rough. I think that I do a pretty good job of trying not to judge people on actions or behaviors at first, because you never know what their story is.

Alright, so like everyone else, I'm not perfect. Sometimes I'll be really annoyed or ticked off by what someone has done, and sometimes I'll need to go home and discuss the issue with my mom, dad, or a friend. However, most of the time I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, and assume that if there was a problem with that person, that they were just having a bad day. Even when you assume that someone is just having a bad day, it is clear when the action or behavior is repeated, that sometimes a person may just not be your cup of tea.

I dealt with a lot of drama throughout high school, no matter how hard I tried to avoid it. Okay, to be perfectly honest, I don't with some drama in college too. But before the drama escalated, I always tried to step back from the situation because I really don't like confrontation. Unfortunately, sometimes you just can't avoid the confrontation. Sometimes, no matter how much you try to ignore the situation, it won't go away and you need to address it.

How do you handle a situation when something is bothering you but you don't want to cause any drama? Even though I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, sometimes the situation will just eat at me because I try to ignore it and leave people alone. The problem with ignoring the situation, however, is that it will start to make you really dislike the person that you have the problem with, when they don't even know that there is a problem to begin with. You can't expect someone to change their actions or behaviors when they don't know that what they are doing is bothering you. This is something that I've been learning more and more as I learn to be an adult and navigate the world on my own.

I still hate confrontation, and I hate going to a superior (like a teacher or a boss) maybe even more, but sometimes you just have to cut through the tension by owning up to your feelings. This is definitely easier said than done, but tonight I actually decided to stop shoving my feelings down and say something when I didn't like a small situation. I didn't need to cause any drama, there was no argument, and there didn't need to be a huge blowup about the ordeal. Instead, I took two minutes, explain how I felt, explains why the situation bothered me, and moved on with life. It was that simple.

Believe me, I would rather not have to talk about any issues in the future like tonight, but at least I was able to get something off of my chest and move on. I feel like I actually handled the situation in a mature manner and I'm proud of myself for that. I feel like I'm slowly but surely learning how to be an adult.

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