Life as a Writer, Disney World Cast Member, and
Big Sister through Foster Care & Adoption
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The other night, I wrote about my little sister losing a tooth, and tonight I wanted to share some of our foster care experience related to children losing teeth.
With so many foster children in and out of our lives over the years, it's only natural that we happened to have some of them living with us during the time that they were losing baby teeth. For those children who lost teeth while they were with us, special tooth fairy traditions had to be carried out. But for foster children who would later return home to their biological families, there was an important twist on those traditions.
Since the day I lost my first tooth, my mom has kept a special collection. Some people may think it's weird or crazy to keep a collection of the little jewels that your children lose, but my mom has always kept them and a record of when they were lost. She did the same with each child who lost a tooth in our house, whether they were here temporarily or here for good.
When we have had foster children who lose teeth while living with us, and then return home to their biological families, my mom always felt like she wanted the families to be part of important milestones that they missed out on while the children were living with us. So whenever a child was leaving our home, my mom would put one of their little treasures buried inside of the personal belongings that were going home with them. She didn't want the child to see it, but she wanted the family to find it when unpacking. She would include all of the important information that the family needed to know; how old the child was when he/she lost the tooth, what day it was, how the tooth fell out... my mom wanted to make sure that the biological family was part of that milestone, even if they weren't there to witness it firsthand.
Sometimes foster families can get caught up in blaming the biological families and calling them the "bad guys" in the situation. But you have to remember that sometimes they're just people who screwed up and deserve a second chance. You can't just group all families together and label them all a certain way. So when you can do something to let those families know that you've been taking care of their child and have given them love and treated them with kindness, you should definitely reach out and extend that 'olive branch' to them.
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My family has been doing foster care since I was three years old. I'm the only biological child in my family, though I now have five permanent siblings. Having nineteen siblings over the course of my lifetime has been an incredible experience, and I'm hoping that by sharing some of the ups and downs of being the only bio kid in a foster family, other foster families or people looking into doing foster care will be able to learn a bit of what life can be like. I also like to share what life is like on my journey to becoming a published author, as well as where my schooling and career choice are taking me.